December 5th 2012.

I landed at Heathrow, Paulo at Norwich, after a 6 month contract back on the Cruise Ships. The reason why it was at different Airports is, in a nutshell, my flight was paid for by the company back from Oz, and as Paulo had resigned to spend Christmas at home with me, he had to pay himself and therefore pick his destination airport.

I armed him with a letter from my Parents inviting him to stay at their home for the 3 months we had planned. Paulo had booked a 3 stop flight. Oz to UK, UK to Rio (For Carnival with a friend) and Rio to his home City – This showed he planned to return home. He also had sufficient money for his trip, as well as well as my parents confirming all his expenses would be paid for – This however did not stop multiple questions from Customs as well as a full bag search. (For more information and guidelines to enter the UK as a visitor please see http://www.ukba.homeoffice.gov.uk/visas-immigration/visiting/general/)


The questions asked were as you would expect ”What brings you to the UK, Where do you plan to stay, Do you have money to support yourself, Do you plan to work etc.” They actually called my mum to question her regarding Paulo’s visit! She was pretty useless at answering questions. She failed to to confirm his last name (duh?) as well as confirming the exact date of his departure (oh dear…) That being said, Paulo was finally allowed past the UK border and met my parents who were eagerly waiting for him!

More to come soon!



5 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. James
    Dec 22, 2010 @ 18:18:34

    Hi there…
    I very much appreciate your blog. I am a Brit currenty staying in Campo Grande until mid January. I married a woman who is from Mato Grosso du Sul, specifically the three towns of Carapó, Ponta Pora and Campo Grande. I am here on a well needed family visit. I am currently in a tiny cyber cafe in Ponta Pora, a town on the border of Paraguay, famous for shopping and Gangsters, and if you feel out of place in CG, I think I actually might be the only Brit here. By the way, I reccommend the shop ´Shopping China´ here… There are things there that I never knew I wanted.
    I sypathise with your Portuguese ability, my Portuguese is minimal, I can get around, but it is a very shallow ability, this aspect of my journey has been infuriateing.
    I am really interested in why you moved to CG and also how you make a living there? You did not mention that on your blog.
    Anyway… If you are not in England in January, you can e-mail and we could meet up if you want.



    • gayhelp
      Dec 22, 2010 @ 20:39:01

      Hey James.

      Well the recent months i didn’t really do much to be honest! But now i have my protocall number in waiting for permanent residency i am working at an English school here. Just another notch to the ‘ Creating an English Life in Campo Grande’ Terrible really. I should throw myself at the deepend so i learn more, yet, i guess employers don’t want someone who can’t communicate with them or their clients! I’m yet to visit Ponta Pora, even though many times it has been suggested we go there! Sadly i’m visiting England all of January, return February. Do you return to UK in Jan or do you live in another city here in Brazil. Going to shoot you an email too!
      Great to hear from you


  2. Mark
    Jan 13, 2011 @ 18:20:39

    Hey Chris

    I saw your post on Gringoes.com and then saw the link to your blog. It’s great to find another Gay Brit living in Brazil and also that you have managed to get your visa 🙂 It’s also great to see that you have put together this blog.

    I’ve been in Brazil on and for the last 9 years and know what is it like living as a foreigner in this country. I often hear people talk about how international São Paulo is. My usual reply is ‘Really, where are they?’ Joking aside, it has got easier over the years (I can now somehow manage to string a sentence together in Portuguese). However, the reality is that most people come, stay for a few months, get frustrated with not being able to work, get a visa then move on 🙂

    Anyway, if you are ever in São Paulo and fancy grabbing a coffee or beer, please drop me a line. In the meantime, you might like to check out my site:


    Um abraço



    • gayhelp
      Jan 14, 2011 @ 19:09:47

      Hey Mark!

      Thanks for contacting. Its true, its great to know you! I have visited Sao Paulo 2 times. On my first visit was right at the start of my trip here and i too expected more english than there was. I’m not arrogant, and i dont expect people to speak english with me, but i really thought more would be spoken because of the up-coming sporting events!

      Do you mind if i ask how old you are? What you do for work (seeing as you implied your portuguese is about as good as mine! lol) and how your finding live here!? We are looking to re-locate soon!

      Hope the floods havent affected you!



  3. Mark brameld
    Jan 14, 2011 @ 23:11:55

    Thanks for your message Chris, and thanks for your concern about the floods. We haven’t been that badly affected in the centre of São Paulo, but we have certainly had a lot of rain. I’m in shock from watching on TV what has happened in Rio. It’s such a tragedy…. so many people dead or missing, or without homes… no one wants to take responsibility for the lack of planning laws…

    You asked about me. I’m an interior designer mainly working with residential property in São Paulo. My Portuguese is actually passable and some how I’m able to work with it. I am 37. You can find out a bit more about me by checking my site:


    I was also surprised by the lack of English when I first came to São Paulo. I’d previously been living in Japan where at the time I used to complain that no one spoke English. There however, people feel an obligation to try and if you are not Asian looking you stick out like a sore thumb and people want to speak English with you. Here, thankfully, as you know, we have the opportunity to become Brazilians and it is (usually) not evident where people are from. Very soon after arriving (I’m sure you’ve had this), people start saying “how is your Portuguese!” I find it refreshing that in some places English doesn’t always rule, but on a personal note, I get tired of speaking Portuguese all day and the assumption that I need to practice is funny and patronising, as I never stop practicing! On the contrary, I value my opportunities to speak English and stupidly find that I now make a lot of mistakes when I speak, meaning that I will probably end up speaking neither language correctly!

    Do let me know how things go with your visa, or if you make it to Sao Paulo. Perhaps you would tell me something about yourself?

    It may be easier to email me at: kartoshki@yahoo.com

    Take care,



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